Issue #1 - Organization and Tidiness

One glaring issue that has caused SO much friction between me and my spouse is my tidiness. He's more of a clean freak/minimalist type and I'm a clutter bug. It's not that I don't WANT to be a clean freak/minimalist type, it's just that I have a hard time finding the motivation and time to abide by it.

Most experts will tell you that severe and chronic disorganization/messiness is one of the most common and debilitating symptoms for adults with ADHD. Clutter everywhere, unfinished projects, lost and/or duplicate items, lost or neglected mail (especially bills!), last week's laundry in a pile on the floor.... and it's not just things that are disorganized. Time is also disorganized. Schedules are erratic, something that should have more of their time ends up getting very little and something that should have been addressed in minutes end up taking hours. Your typical ADHD'er has a hard time with shifting attention from one thing to another, but at the same time they have a hard time focusing for an extended period of time on something they don't particularly enjoy. 

As Judith Kolberg said in an ADDtitude magazine article: "Counterintuitive as it sounds, many ADHD organization challenges stem from perfectionism — the common, learned belief that things must be done impeccably. It’s an impossible standard that leaves many with cluttered homes, out-of-control finances, and exhausting schedules." I often get teased because it takes me hours to clean one room when it would take a person without ADHD only a few minutes. The reason is just as she said, perfectionism. I have this belief that everything should be done right the first time and to the best of your ability. Instead of just picking up all the towels and clothes off the bathroom floor, I want to also vacuum and mop the floor. And don't forget the mats! They need to be laundered. Instead of just cleaning the inside toilet bowl, I want to clean the seat (top and bottom) and the whole outside (because toilets are GROSS!). Besides, if I don't do it then, when will it ever get done? "Oop, looks like there's a little bit of stuff on the shower tiles... Better clean that too... and don't forget all the soap bottles..." That's another problem I have: when I notice something out of place or needing a little attention... I MUST ADDRESS IT NOW. I can't say "ok, let's put that on our to-do list for Tuesday." Even if I tried that, I'd be itching and twitching until Tuesday when I can finally tackle it. 

My main problem is clutter. I have little piles of crap everywhere. I call it organized chaos. My husband calls it embarrassing filth, and I can't argue with him. Except for the filth part. I'm not dirty, just messy. I hardly ever invite people to our house because I'm also embarrassed it's not perfectly neat and tidy. So why don't I just clean it up then? Well, I have... Multiple times. But once I clean one mess, one or two pop up shortly after. Having two young kids doesn't help either. I've been trying to resolve this issue for at least a decade. Reading countless books and articles on how to clean efficiently, coming up with checklists, even attempting to schedule cleaning on my calendars (yes, I said calendar-S). But time seems to be such a commodity with me (see above concerning disorganized time) and nothing has stuck... yet. It always ends the same though. I get frustrated and I give up. My husband gets irritated and resentful, and everyone ends up miserable. All over stuff... Just stuff... Nothing really important. Inanimate objects laying around and minding their own business, not realizing they cause so much frustration and anger just by hanging out.

I'm not THIS bad, but you get the point.

So what am I going to do about it? Well... that's a good question. What haven't I tried yet? I've tried cleaning after everyone goes to bed (I'm a major night owl), but my house carries sound so badly I have a hard time doing it without disturbing those that are sawing logs upstairs. I've tried cleaning before going to work, but a quick 15 min cleaning session almost always got extended and made me even later for work than I usually am due to dropping kids off at school and having to go allllllllll the way back home to let our senior pooch out for potty time. I've tried making Sundays my cleaning days, but that would take too much time away from everyt0hing (and everyone) else I need to direct my attention to. Frankly, my brain just can't handle doing it all day. I get bored or just plain unmotivated and end up stopping to do something that sparks my interest a little more. Currently, I'm trying to purge so that I just have less stuff to deal with. A long while ago I read (well... listened to) Marie Kondo's book, "The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing," and I tried to implement it at home. Unfortunately, the rest of the family wasn't cooperating. So I'm left to try and do it myself with mostly just my stuff. Some of it I already do and have been for years, but some will take some getting used to. I have countless checklists and life hacks, most of which probably say the same things anyway... Soooooo.....

So far, here's what I generally THINK needs to happen for success:

1. I need to be realistic about my schedules and my scatter brain. Obviously my brain can't tolerate spending all day cleaning. Maybe once in a while I'll get on a roll and hyperfocus on cleaning, but I still don't get as much done in a day as my husband probably could. I need to tackle everything in small doses,15 min or so each, multiple times a day, with an actual timer to enforce that limit.

2. Purge.. and I don't mean getting rid of one or two little things. I mean REALLY purge our stuff. This is always the hard. Every time I see something that I probably should get rid of, I think "but I could use it for..." or "but someday I will..." Like Marie Kondo says, odds are... you won't. That book that's been sitting on the shelf for ages and you haven't read? Probably will still be sitting in the same spot ages from now. It's just taking up space and not contributing to the household, so it needs to go. Either by donation, selling, or (I hate to say) discarding in the trash. I'm so against filling up our landfills, so I try my hardest to upcycle, donate, or recycle what I can, but some things just need to be thrown away. The best way to avoid this is probably not having it in the first place, which is another problem: Replacing purged clutter with MORE CLUTTER. I am an impulsive shopper... especially when I'm angry or upset. You've probably heard of retail therapy? Yeah... apparently shopping makes me feel better. But even when I'm not engaging in retail therapy, I'll be in the store and something will catch my eye. The creative gears in my already busy brain go into overdrive. Next thing you know, it's getting scanned at the register or an order confirmation has just popped up in my inbox. My intentions are always good, I don't buy things just because the look pretty or because I can. I usually have a purpose for it in mind. What I don't think about it is the importance of that purpose. Something I've found that helps is doing orders through Shipt. I get my shopping urge satisfied, but I don't keep anything. I think getting that as a second "job" was a good decision. 

   

...and be realistic about future use! (this is a reiteration) Like I said before. I need to think about whether or not I will REALLY use it in the future.. Another example: You know that favorite pair of jeans you had in high school but can barely fit over your thighs now? You pushed them all the way to the back of the closet, saying "I'm trying to lose weight. Maybe they'll fit again." Yeah..... I have probably an entire wardrobe of that in boxes, hidden away. Obviously, if I haven't been able to fit into them again in the past decade, I probably won't be able to anytime soon. Besides, once I do lose that much weight, I'll probably want all new styles anyway. I need to think like that anytime I come across anything I haven't used or touched in a long time and just. get. rid. of it.

3. Make a list of repetitive goals for each day, but keep it short (maybe no more than 5 tasks). If I have enough time and I'm on a roll, I can add one or two weekly tasks to keep things from getting monotonous. Hell, just make a list of goals, to start with.Daily, weekly, monthly. Stuff like laundry can be done daily (one load). Dishes, making the bed, quick vacuuming, quick little pickups of random objects that aren't in their places and easy to put away, and wiping down counter tops can also be daily tasks. Weekly should probably be cleaning bathrooms, more thorough vacuuming, more thorough cleaning of appliances, dusting, and changing linens and towels. Monthly can be the little details that get overlooked like baseboards, vents, blinds, fan blades, etc. 

4. Don't worry so much about perfection. Good enough should be just that... Good enough. As I said before, I have this mentality that everything should be done to the best of your ability. This has caused me to do a LOT of things "the hard way" and the longest way possible. I need to tell myself that things don't need to be lined up perfectly or completely spotless. a spot or two isn't going to hurt. Could it look better? Sure. Does it need to? Probably not. Is it efficient? Yes. That's what matters. Good enough is better than not at all. 

5. Lastly, STICK TO IT. This one is obvious, but probably the hardest one on the list. If things aren't going perfectly or I miss one day, I tend to just quit and move on. It's partially from frustration, partially from anxiety, and partially from a feeling of failure. I feel like "whelp, I missed one so now everything is shifted and messed up and I'll never recover, so why frigging bother?" I need to remember that missing one every now and then isn't failure. It's a setback. And it's not going to make the world spontaneously combust. It'll be ok. Just pick back up where you left off as if you didn't miss a beat. If something isn't going exactly as I hoped and it's getting too frustrating for me, I need to step away for a short period of time, do whatever else I can, and come back to it as soon as I can. I just have to remember to come back to it. 

Am I missing anything? I'll be going into detail in the coming days about what I'm doing to organize things and streamline, both at home and at work. 

What do you think about my list? What do you have a hard time with and how do you cope?  

#Project2020 #cleanlinessisnexttogodliness #tryingtokeepmyhusbandfromhavingmurderousthoughts 

Project 2020 - from hot mess to... ?

If you know me, you know I'm a self-confessed hot mess. A walking disaster with more issues than a grocery store gossip magazine. I'm ADHD with generalized anxiety disorder who has fought constantly with insomnia and a super low self-esteem, with bouts of depression and mood swings mixed in between. In a nutshell, I'm a miserable person.

As I'm approaching that milestone known as middle-aged or "over the hill," I realize that I've already been going downhill for years.. how long before I hit rock bottom? Am I already there? I want to start the other half of my life up high. At my best, in all aspects of my life. And I want to stay there. So I have a massive project.... and I've named it

It sounds like some futuristic robotics project that may end with death and lots of destruction, and in a way it might be. No, nobody's gonna die... but I AM going to rebuild myself. And I don't know what may happen along the way. I'm going to be better, stronger, faster.... I just hope it doesn't cost 6 million dollars.

So here's the plan: 

Every week or so I will identify at least one thing about myself or my life that has/is an "issue." And I will spend the next week focusing on that specific issue and what I can do to resolve it. Some may take more than a week, some less, but I don't stop focusing on that issue until I'm satisfied that I have either resolved it or have a solid plan in place to getting it resolved as soon as possible. As the name shows, I have only a year (well, less, since I'm starting at the end of the first month). My goal is to be, by my 40th birthday, the successful, healthy, well-rounded, and happy person I've always dreamed of being. And I invite you to join me!

Will it be tough? 

Hell yes! 

Probably one of the toughest things I've done. 

Will I give up? 

Well.... hopefully not. 

I hope that I can recruit your help to keep me motivated and give me ideas for solutions. So please feel free to comment and question. Maybe an issue I'm working on is also something you wish to improve in your life. Let's talk about it! Let's help each other out! Just don't be a troll, please.

So let me put on my big girl panties and let's get this started! 

#project2020 #selfimprovement #selfawareness

How I went "Au Naturale" (and you can too!)

How I went "Au Naturale" (and you can too!):

There's something I'm really excited about that I want to share with you. You may not want to talk to me anymore after this (I hope not, because that means you weren't really my friend in the first place, were you?), but it may make a difference in someone else's life (or yours!). What am I talking about? I.. quit... 'poo-ing... NO, I'm not talking about bowel habits. I'm talking about hair care. Here's some background on the "no-poo" movement (Better grab a drink and get comfy... This is going to be a LONG post.):

The whys:

The full explanation is all over the internet, along with instructions, recipes, faq's, and personal testimonies. An example website is www.nopoomethod.com, but what it boils down to is: People are realizing that today's synthetic hair care products contain ingredients that are actually counter-productive when it comes to hair care. They are full of harsh chemicals that strip hair of it's natural, protective oils, wreaking havoc on your scalp and making it go nuts. What I mean by going nuts is that your scalp starts over producing oils to compensate for the dryness, and you end up fighting a never ending battle with your hair. You buy more and more products to attack your "issues" and they keep making things worse, and you don't even realize it! This awakening among folks has started a sort of underground movement to go shampoo/conditioner free and instead utilize natural ingredients, like baking soda and vinegar (and sometimes just plain water!), to clean their hair. The result? From what I have read, some VERY happy 'poo free people! (Confession: I really hate the term "no-poo". You can't help but think of the other poo when you hear it.) And now, from my own experience (so far), I can honestly say that I join the club of happy hair naturals. I'm currently going on week three since a drop of shampoo or conditioner has touched my tresses and O...M...G.... and I don't believe I'm another victim of a fad or that I'm having a placebo effect.

My Sob Story:

Ok, so here goes MY story.... For decades (almost my whole life), I've been fighting a fight that has made me so insecure and paranoid. It has also made me avoid wearing dark colors, unless I wanted to constantly brush off my shoulders. I had the worst dandruff. I've seen dermatologists, and they said there isn't much they can do, other than medicated shampoos. I've consulted hair stylists, who said my hair was dry and I should consider washing my hair less. They were on the right track, but it wasn't the solution. You see, if I went a couple of days without washing my hair, my scalp would itch SO bad and I would scratch until my scalp bled. And I would STILL have the dandruff.... I went to doctors about the itch. They theorized I was allergic to my hair or sebum. Wait... what? Allergic to my OWN hair and the oils my OWN scalp produces??? Something's not right about that... I even tried "co-washing", which is washing with only conditioner (my hair was dry, right?). No dice... I just ended up with kinda greasy hair. So, basically I gave up. I learned to live with the dandruff and I would just keep looking at my shoulders to make sure I didn't get embarrassed. Then one day, I was surfing the net and I stumbled across a post about ditching synthetic hair products. I don't even know how I came across it. I started reading it and I started reading the comments. People were raving about how their hair appeared thicker and healthier (my hair seemed to be getting thinner and thinner over the years. I thought I was going bald!), they had less hair loss, and their hair seemed to grow faster (hair grows? You wouldn't think so with my hair.), and felt softer than ever. The process seemed simple enough and it would save me a lot of money in the long run (I'm not going to even tell you how much I was spending on hair products), right? The result so far has been shocking... My hair is SO soft and shiny... and the best part? My dandruff is virtually cured!!!! After two weeks, my dandruff has reduced at least 80% and after my second baking soda wash, it's pretty much non-existent. Let me repeat that: MY DANDRUFF IS GONE. Decades of suffering and in two weeks... GONE. I still can't believe it. Oh, and no itch either! :-)

The Hows:

So how does one ditch the 'poo? Well, it's a process. And let me start by saying that from the comments I read, it's not for everybody. Some people did NOT have good results, but it doesn't hurt to try and you'd only be out a little bit of baking soda and vinegar. That's a lot better than $40 shampoo. So, to start out, you need to prepare for your journey into natural hair. You need to be prepared to resist those wonderful, strong, perfume smells, rich lather than people normally associate with clean, and those tools that can make your hair do cool things (although you don't have to ditch the tools completely, if you take the right precautions. More on that later..). Oh, and definitely invest in a good natural bristle brush. It'll be a necessary tool for distributing your natural oils throughout the length of your hair.

Next, you need to clarify your hair. That's what the baking soda is for. There are several ways to do it, but the key is finding the right amount to use and making sure you rinse every last bit of it out. Too much baking soda... you have flakes that look like dandruff, but it's really just dried up baking soda and gunk from your scalp. Too little baking soda.... and well, you don't have clean hair. I dissolve about 1 to 2 Tbsp of baking soda in 1-1.5 cups of water. I use a squeeze bottle from the grocery store to soak every nook and cranny of my hair. Then I massage, massage, massage, until my hair gets this kind of slippery, slimy feel to it. Then I rinse, rinse, rinse. A LOT.

The baking soda is alkaline and very effective at removing product buildup from your scalp and hair. Only problem is.. it's alkaline... Your hair's natural pH should be anywhere between 4.5 and 5.5. This slightly acidic level is to keep fungus and bacteria at bay, as well as keep the cuticle closed and and healthy. That's what the vinegar is for. Too much baking soda or contact with it for too long / too often can be quite damaging. Rinsing with vinegar lowers the pH to prevent the damage and bring your hair back to it's happy place. Of course, you will need to dilute the vinegar. I dilute it and use another squeeze bottle to rinse every nook and cranny of my hair, focusing more on the ends. Then I let it sit for a little bit (about 5 to 10 minutes) and finally rinse, rinse, rinse again. Now, keep in mind that baking soda can be pretty drying. The vinegar works as kind of a conditioner, but it doesn't do it completely. Something that does help is frequent brushing with that awesome natural bristle brush you got (remember the old saying about brushing 100 strokes a day? Well, you don't have to do 100, but the concept still rings true). It will move the oils from your roots all the way down the hair shaft to the tips, and it will also help remove any gunk your hair may have collected from the environment all day long.

Then you go about your business as usual, resisting the urge to grab a shiny new bottle of shampoo or conditioner. And you WILL have that urge.. Why? I told you this is a process. A LOT of people said their hair went through a transition phase. The transition from synthetic to natural also freaks out your scalp and it needs time to... recalibrate, I guess you could say. During this phase, your hair looks like you went swimming in the Gulf after Deepwater Horizon (for those that don't know, that's when an oil rig exploded in the Gulf and approx. 5 million gallons of oil leaked into the Gulf of Mexico in 2010). Yes, an oily, stringy, mess. This phase can last anywhere from a couple of weeks to a couple of months (YIKES!!!!). I guess I got lucky because I'm going on week three and I haven't had a transition phase (I hope I'm not speaking too soon!). My theory is: because I was only washing my hair every three days or so before I ditched the products, it wasn't as much of a shock to my scalp??? Your guess is as good as mine. Anyway.... Supposedly, once that transition phase is over, you end up with gorgeous, naturally bouncy, shiny, soft hair that seemed to have gone through some kind of transformation. I've even read about some people who develop waves when their hair was always straight and vice versa. SAY WHAAAAAAAT?! But above all, you gotta stick it through. Don't give up! Your hair might emerge like a beautiful butterfly!

The Visual Proof:

Now, it might be hard to tell the difference, just from pictures alone, but I can definitely describe for you what the differences are.

Here's a couple of examples of how my hair looked before (washed every two or three days, with professional shampoo and conditioner - Redken Color Extend):  

• At three days after a BS/ACV (Baking soda/Apple Cider Vinegar) wash and one week since the last shampoo/condition (I had used dry shampoo (a spray) once, because of my fear of stank), my hair was kind of dry at the ends and a little frizzy. At this point I would say that the dandruff pieces were about 2-3mm in diameter and if you scratched a little at my scalp, you would get a nice heavy sloughing of dandruff (god, I hate talking about this). My daughter called them hair snowflakes.:

• Another week after my last BS/ACV wash and 1.5 weeks since last shampoo/condition, I had only washed with water and tea tree oil once. My hair had more body/bounce, it was significantly softer and silkier feeling, and I haven't had a single bit of itch. The dandruff reduced about 80% in amount and the size of the flakes were much smaller (about 1/2-1mm). This was when I REALLY started to get excited, but I didn't want to get my hopes up and tried to remain skeptical. After this, I did another BS/ACV wash.

• One day after my second ever BS/ACV wash, my hair looks and feels phenomenal. I've been good at staying away from my straightening iron, instead using my straightening dryer (and I recently purchased a straightening brush, which I'm still on the fence on whether I like or not) on very low heat or cool setting, after my hair has had a chance to dry about 50%. I also used a little bit of coconut oil to condition before drying. Now, here's where I can tell you I saw the most difference. First of all, the dandruff... completely... gone. Here I am, two days later and STILL no dandruff. Secondly, the shine. My hair after blow drying (even on cool or low setting) would normally be more matte and frizzy, which is why I always avoided blow drying. Oils, serums, and lotions didn't help. My hair now is so slick and shiny, something I used to only be able to achieve with my straightening iron (and then my hair would be flat and thin looking). Thirdly, the feel. It's oh, so soft. I can't stop running my hands through it! My hair used to only feel this way after a straightening iron, and we all know why (I literally ironed it smooth and soft!). And finally, something that you probably would never think is a problem: the lift at my scalp, especially at my bangs. I used to have SUCH a hard time with this. I would tease my hair, blow dry it straight up, try to curl it... EVERYTHING, and all I would get is flat bangs unless I sprayed the crap out of it with hairspray before it fell. And the second or third day? You might as well forget it. It would fall before I even got the lid of the can. 

I wanted this:                         but I kept getting this:  

                                

which may be fine to some people, but it does NOT look good on me. I have not had to take my hairspray out of the basket... AT ALL... and 3, 4 days after my last wash with any type of cleanser (I'm referring to the BS/ACV) and it's still voluminous?? What kind of sorcery is this? You can see from the picture at the beginning of this blog (taken on day 18 of my no-poo project) and the pictures below that my hair is much more voluminous that it used to be.

So here we are, two weeks after I started this transition to natural and this is the result:

LOOK AT THE SHINE!

In Conclusion:

(I know what you're thinking... "FINALLY!") I'm really sorry you had to read all of this, but for such a simple process, there's a lot of info involved. Bottom line: So far I'm so glad I finally found this and did it. I truly think this has changed my hair for the better. Call it icky, call me a hippie and turn your nose up at it, but it's working for me. Just do me a favor. If you are really my friend, and my hair is smelling like salad, or worse, wet dog: FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, TELL ME. So far, I think I'm good (I believe my kid... I think), but you never know....

The "What?"s:

Now, I know all these questions start popping up in your head. They certainly did in mine. So here's my own faq (I'm not anywhere near an expert in this, so I will be constantly updating this list as I learn)... And you thought I was really done rambling? Ha!:

Q: Won't your hair stink?

A: Actually, no, IF you're doing it right. If you're cleaning your hair well enough and brushing it regularly, it should smell like... well, hair. I know people worry about the vinegar part. They think they'll smell like a salad afterwards. Well, apple cider vinegar (best to use the unfiltered, organic kind) is WAY better than white distilled vinegar in that dept. Yes, it's strong, but once you rinse it out with water and your hair dries, the smell dissipates. That is, if you have the dilution right. Too concentrated and yes, you will smell like pickles. I think smell is the only thing I'm self conscious about right now. I've recruited my brutally honest child to be my "hair sniffer". So far, she says it smells like my sheets or like hair with nothing in it (if that makes sense). To help ease my mind a little, I rinse the vinegar out with water that has a few drops of an essential oil. Right now I use tea tree oil. Whenever I wash with water only, I rinse with water that has tea tree oil too. I just bought some shea butter and other essential oils to try and make my own hair oil too. Some people use other acidic rinses, like lemon or they mix their rinse with tea. I haven't tried the lemon yet, but I plan on giving it a shot once I run out of my vinegar dilution I already made.

Q: If the baking soda can be damaging, how often do you do it and can you wash on other days?

A: It's recommended that you don't do the baking soda wash more than two times a week. Some people even say once a week. The goal though, is to get to the point where you don't need to do it at all and you reserve it for those days you really need it (like when you were working in the yard all day or you had to get all gussied up for a party and used half a can of hairspray in your hair). One of the main reasons people eventually go to water only is because there have been a lot of testimonials claiming that their hair went to crap after about two years, and they think it was the baking soda and/or vinegar regimen. Otherwise, you can wash your hair with plain water as much as often as you'd like. You can also use powders as dry shampoos. If you want natural, cornstarch or baby powder works well on light hair and cocoa powder on dark hair. And who wouldn't want to smell baby fresh or like chocolate?

Q: Do I have to use filtered or distilled water?

A: If you have hard water, it can effect your results. Hard water has added minerals that can affect the way the baking soda combines. To counteract this, I follow this chick's advice (http://www.zombies4breakfast.com/2013/04/30/no-poo-hairwashing-for-hard-water-an-adventure-in-beauty-experimentation/) and I boil the water first, then add the baking soda to it while it's still boiling hot and stir until it dissolves (shouldn't take much stirring). Then I let it cool completely before putting it in the squeeze bottle. For the vinegar, I also boil the water first. Then I add about 2.5 Tbsp of vinegar per cup of water and let that cool before bottling it. Some people use a filtered shower head, but I think boiling a cup of water is easy enough.

Q: Can you do this with color treated hair?

A: I have color treated hair. Yes, baking soda has the ability to strip the color from hair a little, but I dilute it SO much. So far I haven't noticed any fading. I haven't tried with my purple demi-permanent color, but I think it would actually make the color last a little longer. I wouldn't be washing as much, it wouldn't be with shampoos that strip the hair of the color, and the vinegar helps "set" the color.

Q: It was mentioned that hair tools had to be given up?

A: Not completely, but you might want to cut back.. A LOT. The reason why is because synthetic products (like heat protectant sprays) coat your hair in silicone. Once you ditch that stuff, you don't have that protective silicone shield anymore, leaving your hair vulnerable to heat damage. There are some hair oils you can try, that some people say are good natural alternatives: mostly oils with higher smoke points. Unfortunately, those oils with higher smoke points can weigh hair down A LOT, making it a greasy mess. Shea butter is the oil that's most like the "cones" used in the synthetic stuff, so it's heat conductivity is pretty high, making it the most heavy duty protectant oil used by naturalistas. To prevent a greasy, heavy mess, just watch how much you use. Don't slather it on. A little goes a REALLY long way. Another thing is, natural hair doesn't need as high temp because it's not coated with that crap anymore. So it's recommended you keep the temp below 350F, using the lowest temp your hair will behave to (and different individual's hair will respond to different temps, so you need to find your sweet spot).

Q: What do I do when I go to a stylist?

A: I think you should tell them that you've gone natural and see what they can do to accommodate. The last thing you want is for them to start piling on the products and completely undo what you worked so hard for (remember that transition phase? YUCK!). If they want to keep your business, they will do what they can to respect your wishes to stay natural, even if it means just using a spray bottle of water.

If you made it this far, thanks so much for at least taking the time to read all of this and I'll be happy if I at least planted the seed in your mind, but I wouldn't be surprised if a lot of you just said "TL;DR" and pressed the back button. It's okay. I'm okay with that. I wouldn't go through all of this effort if I didn't really believe in it though. 

Much love!